What is Love

            The general argument made by Helen Fisher in her work What is Love? Is that love is a chemical reaction in the brain. More specifically, certain emotions have certain networks in the brain. She Writes, “Lust the craving for sexual gratification is associated primarily with testosterone in both men and women.” (pg.334)  Love has to do with heightened brain activity and that is why when people are in love they find that they are thinking obsessively about their love. In this passage, Fisher is suggesting that love is fate as it is often portrayed in fairy tales it is a chemical reaction in the brain that has to do with sexual gratification. In conclusion it is Fisher’s belief that love has to with the brain and not the heart.

            In my view Fisher is wrong because when someone loves someone they do not just want sexual gratification they want happiness. More specifically happiness for one they love and to share in that happiness with them. Love is not about having sex it is about caring for another more than yourself and truly loving to be with them no matter what you are doing. Although Fisher might object that sexual gratification is important in a relationship because it is human nature I maintain that love is caring for someone else the way Fisher describes love sounds more like lust to me rather than true love. Therefore\ I conclude that while the chemical reactions in your brain are cause for the way you feel when you are in love, sexual gratification is not love it is lust.